Author / Jason
Main content: Basic skills in dealing with people
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Principle 1:Don’t criticize ,condemn or complain. 不要批评、责怪或抱怨他人
Instead of condemning people.
与其责怪他人
let’s try to understand them.
不如试着理解他们
Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do.
尝试弄清楚他们为什么要做某件事
Critism is dangerous sometimes.
有时候，批评是一件危险的事情。
Because it might wound a person’s pride.
因为它可能损害一个人的骄傲
hurt his sense of importance.
伤害他的自尊心
and even arouse resentment.
甚至引发怨恨
When dealing with people.
与人相处时
We are not dealing with creatures of logic.
我们不是在和逻辑动物打交道
We are dealing with creatures of emotion.
我们打交道的是感情动物
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Principle 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
诚实而真诚的赞赏他人
One of the most neglected virtues is appreciation.
最被忽视的美德之一就是赞赏
But it’s important in a relationship.
但赞赏是一段关系中很重要的部分
Somhow,we neglect to praise our families or friends.
不知道为何，我们经常忘了表扬我们的家人或朋友
Or fail to encourage them when they have done something good.
或当他们做了好事时，忘记鼓励他们
Let’s try to figure out the other person’s good points.
尝试发现他人身上的优点，
And they will cherish your words.
而他们会珍惜你的赞美
And treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime.
如获至宝，一辈子也记得。
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Principle 3: Arouse in the other person an eager want.
引发他人心中的渴望。
If there is any one secret of success.
如果说成功有秘诀
it lies in the ability to understand the other person’s point of view
那取决于从他人角度理解他们的能力
and see things from that person’s angle.
以及从他们的角度看待事物的能力
Stop telling them what you want
别告诉他们你想要什么
and try to help them realize it’s for their benefit.
而是试着帮助他们意识到，你做的对他们有益。
